What Radical Love is teaching me so far

One of the most profound shifts in my belief system over the past decade has been to choose to believe in the inevitable and absolute truth of love.

Love is unchanging and ever-present. 

There is nothing I have to do to create love because it is always there. 

Whenever I am not perceiving love, the practice is not to figure out what’s wrong “out there” but to go within and get curious about where I am unwilling to shift my perception. It’s an inside job. 

A Course in Miracles actually defines this shift in perception from fear to love as a miracle, and that has brought me so much clarity and peace over the years. 

(Sidenote: as I was fact checking my memory on this definition I started re-reading Chapter 1 of this book and it sent me… you can check it out here. Beware: may cause miracles!)

What feels so profound about this upgrade to my internal belief system is that any time I am in fear, stress, judgment, scarcity—any of these icky energy-sucking mindsets—and then choose into the inevitable, absolute truth of love, I find that none of that is even real!

I don’t have to fix or change anything because it’s actually nothing. It doesn’t exist. 

The implications of this?! They run deep! And they counter SO much of the status quo of my life. Relationships, work, taxes, politics, you name it. It feels like there is always a new layer to discover. It’s like even down to the most mundane pieces of my life—like what I’m having for breakfast, what time I go to bed, whether I floss today—reveal where I am choosing into Radical Love or everything else.

Taking this rigorous approach to living my intention of love has already brought forth massive breakthroughs for me this year. I wanted to share some of what has been opening up for me, and then I want to hear from you! 

I am still receiving the gifts of my breakthrough in self-love in January. They keep unfolding in new and unexpected ways, but the impact is profound. I have the experience of floating joyfully through my days. What I am learning:

1. Self-love is not selfish. I had a huge uplevel to my relationship with myself from the “cosmos” domain. I realized that a divine force had created all of life, including me. And that my consciousness was entrusted to care for the body I was born into. No more trying to dim myself for others’ comfort, it is my responsibility to love this body with everything I’ve got. To let her live out loud and full, so that I bring forth vitality and vibrancy for the world. 

2. I am a valuable gift to others. When I integrated this into my relationships fully, I shifted from trying to convince others of my worthiness and into discerning who is showing up in my life as responsible for receiving the gift that is me. I know everyone is capable of this, because everyone’s innate and divine nature is love. But if they are not choosing that with me, I get to shift my energy and focus into relationships that do. 

3. I am fully in charge of my energy and where it goes. And I am responsible to set myself up to win. This means putting some systems and structures in place that support me in being responsible for my energy. For me, that looks like living in Mexico City, waking up early to pray, keeping my schedule free and open, and taking long walks in the middle of the day. These activities help me access a loving state of mind. I’ve been studying a lot of Joe Dispenza lately in preparation for his weeklong training I’m going to in April, and in this morning’s lesson, he landed the point that the energy of anxiety, stress, fear, resentment is actually an altered state. It is not natural! And it impacts us into low vibrations, as measured through brain waves. But so does staying in the altered state of love. The brainwaves here are at the highest level of gamma waves, where we can access feelings of gratitude, joy, surrender, and ecstasy. 

Some tangible ways this is playing out in my life:

1. Career! I was invited to do a workshop at the University of Miami last week and completely crushed it. I know I changed the trajectory of these students’ lives based on their feedback. And ya know what? Zero stress at all creating and delivering it. THIS IS THE VIBE!

2. Self-love GLOW UP! I am taking the time to nurture and adorn my body as a representation of the regard I have for myself. This is a shift from thinking how I look doesn’t matter because what drove that was a belief that I don’t matter. I am not doing this to appeal to any beauty standards, I’m just having fun and celebrating the body and creativity I was born into. 

3. Romance! I started dating and these men out here are just so lucky to have me :) I am unattached, soft, and receptive and it’s so much fun learning about this side of myself. 

4. Showing up! For the first time, I am feeling so in love with myself that I feel unapologetic and fearless showing up to the world and being seen. So I’m going all in on my social media presence so that I can invite more people into this belief system shift into love. (P.S. follow me on IG! @exgirlboss)

5. Impact! I can show up in alignment with my values of personal power, collective good, planetary thriving, and cosmic love without having to fight against anything. When I fight, I create more fight. When I am unwavering in my commitment to Radical Love, I create more radical love. 

Now I want to hear about YOU!

What have YOU been learning so far in this walk with radical love? What’s been blooming in your life as a result?

Let’s get a yummy and celebratory conversation flowing together. 

Xoxo, 

Sarah